Thursday, April 14, 2011

Book Review: Save Your Marriage in Five Minutes a Day

Do not get excited.  The title seems nice, but I would never, ever recommend this book to anyone.  Ever.

Yes, it is chock full of strategies to transform your marriage.  It addresses topics from domestic bliss to keeping the spark alive.  There are tips on how to communicate and how to fight fair.  The five minutes part of the title is true enough; Dr. Bonnie Jacobson delivers on the promise by offering plenty of ideas that would only take you five minutes to carry out.  Her theory is that small, meaningful gestures add up to a big difference, one day at a time.  I have no issue with that.

My first red flag shot up and waved widely at her suggestion to watch pornography together, in the Keeping the Spark Alive section.  I thought it might be a fluke, but she mentions it several times as a valid exercise.  Most of the rest of the ideas are based on a very worldly view of marriage.  This book is 100% secular in nature.

At first I was shocked.  I received the book from Thomas Nelson Publisher's BookSneeze program.  Thomas Nelson is a Christian publisher.  Then I remembered the email about this book, which stated that Thomas Nelson was partnering with Adams Media.  I wonder if anyone at Thomas Nelson has read this book.  Thankfully their name is no where on it.

I suppose the book is fine enough.  It does advocate marriage over divorce, every time.  I can get behind that, I guess.  But I would only recommend it to a person whose marriage needs help the way I would recommend a starving homeless person seek nourishment from the dumpster behind Wendy's.  They'll find food alright.  But that's about it.

If you are looking for marriage books, stick with anything that is recommended by Focus on the Family.  I believe that any and all marriage advice will only be successful from a Biblical standpoint, since God is the one Who ordained marriage in the first place.  Any book that gives advice without any mention to the Bible should probably be thrown in the trash.  And that is where my free copy is going.  I can't even bring myself to donate it to Goodwill.

Thomas Nelson provided me with a free copy of this book as a part of their blogger program called BookSneeze.

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